I was on my way to becoming a New York State Licensed Architect. Studying to take my test after working in the industry for several years.
I had just got a raise. I was married with two children. My life looked like it was going perfectly from the outside. Even the smile I put on was picturesque.
But the man I was married to was abusive. When I finally put my foot down and left, it felt like everything was falling apart. I was forced to face the reality of my life.
Who am I? What am I doing? I desperately wanted to fix my life and find true happiness.
Facing yourself when you’re in that kind of state, and everything seems to be falling apart around you is beyond difficult. It was so much easier to blame him and the people around me.
But I had to take the responsibility for my life falling apart. In facing myself I realized that I never took the time to develop who I am. I reacted to my life, rather than being proactive about my life.
I delved into a search of myself and that came to a standstill when I realized “life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
So, I stopped looking outside of myself and now I look within me for my healing and fulfillment — everything else I truly needed. Now, I develop my True-Self, and I help others develop their True-Self.
You do not need all “the things” outside yourself. You just need to look within. Everything you have is within you. Like a seed that grows into a tree, you nurture what is within.
As a creative I decided thinking outside the box wasn’t even an option: so I think like there is no box. That’s why being a Space Transformation coach works for me.
I help survivors of abuse create healing spaces that accelerate healing. It’s not just architecture and design — it’s how we can make your environment work for you, to improve your mental and physical health.
But it wasn’t just helping people. Have you heard there is giving someone a fish, and teaching someone how to fish. When you teach people how to teach people to fish, you can end world hunger.
I mentor others on the path to their certification, guiding them as they do their coursework. That way my work is not just about the people I affect, but the people they go out to affect once they get certified.
It’s like I always say, “You are light.” Your light comes from within and helps you and others see. You learn how to lead yourself.
I truly believe in self-healing. And creating space for people to be their True-Self. I don’t put people in boxes. We are no longer apologizing for being ourselves; for being too much or too little.